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Depression Hotlines:
I Need To Talk, I'm Feeling Very Depressed

by Marvic Wright
(Newark,Nj)

I'm going through a situation with my husband and I want it to work, but where do I start? I just need someone I can talk to and confide in. Right now I have no one.

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Marvic,

First of all, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and ask for help. It is great that you took that first step.

I know from my 11 year marriage that marriage takes a lot of hard work and dedication, that's for sure! Throughout our marriage we have had our highs, our lows and our very lows! There are many times where I am certain we are heading for the bid "D" (divorce) and then we manage to pull together, work through our issues and make things better than ever. What I have found is that each rough patch has ultimately made our marriage stronger.

There are many depression hotlines for you to choose from. You can find a complete list at my Depression Hotlines page.

Choose the best option that fits your situation. For instance, if you are in an abusive relationship then I would recommend reaching out to a domestic violence hotline. They can provide support for both the abuse and the depression. Or, of course, if you are just depressed and there is no abuse then go directly to a depression / crisis hotline.

No matter who you call, they will be able to provide immediate support and most likely help you find resources that are in your local community.

Thanks for reaching out. I truly wish you all the best. Believe in yourself and continue moving ahead with the courage that you obviously possess and know that, with a little work and perseverance,things will get better very soon!

Namaste!

Dana

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Hope You Are Doing Okay
by: Dana

Marvic,

Just reaching out to let you know that I am thinking about you. I hope that you are doing okay and that you have found the support that you need to help you get through your situation.

Remember you deserve to be treated with respect. You are powerful, you are amazing. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

Remember there are many resources available to help you leave an abusive relationship. Reach out to them when you're ready.

All the best,

Dana

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by: Dana

More often than not, friends and family are quick to say “I would never take that. Why doesn’t she just leave?” and they say that simply because they do not understand.

An abusive relationship is a very tangled web that is woven over time. It comes with a lot of complexities. It is the motive of the abuser to make the victim feel powerless, helpless and alone. They do this by saying things like “you can’t leave me. Where would you go? Nobody would want you!” or “You can’t survive without me. You need me.” They isolate you from your friends, your family… all so that you have nobody to turn to. So that he is has the power.

It is the abusers motive to strip their victim of any dignity, self esteem or feelings of self worth. All of this so they can have control. When this happens over a long period of time, they are often quite successful. The victim begins to believe that they are worthless, that nobody will want them, that they are powerless.

Important thing to note here is that there is nothing farther from the truth! We, as women, are born powerful, we are born as amazing human beings that are immersed in courage, strength and dignity. Yes, we can get caught up in an unhealthy relationship where we begin to believe all the brainwashing that is happening. But then, eventually, we feel this twinge inside of us that says, “Wait a minute! I don’t deserve this! I deserve better! I am an amazing woman and I won’t stand for this anymore!”. Then we embrace our power and the courage it takes to make a better choice. To choose to live a better life. To choose to have what you deserve…..a partner that will love and respect you for the amazing woman that you really are.

As a Counselor I have helped many victims of domestic abuse. Helping them on this journey… taking them from a place of “but he said he was sorry” to the place of “I deserve better and I won’t stand for this anymore”. It is such an honor to stand beside them and watch them reclaim their power, reclaim their right to be heard, to be respected.

One word of caution though….reclaiming must be done in such a way that you are safe. If you decide to leave, plan your departure carefully. When you leave or threaten to leave the abuser feels as if he’s losing control and things can escalate into a dangerous, sometimes life threatening, situation very quickly.

Call the hotline, seek support and advice on how you can leave, what kind of resources are available to you (ie. Safe house) and develop a plan so that you can leave the relationship in a way that keeps you safe! I can’t stress this enough. Reclaim your power, but do it strategically with the help of a professional. There is a lot to think about and you want to stay safe through the process.

Sending you lots of love and light,

Dana

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Thanks So Much
by: marvic

I just need someone to talk to that will actually listen who has experience with this sort of issue because I'm really hurting inside and I can't talk to him.

He is already set in his ways. Yesterday we got in to a fight because he was drinking and he urinated on our office room floor and on a pair of pants that weren't evenn his. He made it into a bigger issue so we fought. He hurt me, I hurt him back. Now today we are both walking around sore. Our apt. is a wreck.

He always belittles me, makes me feel worthless, then he appollogizes. I'm a nervous wreck. I can't think. I can't eat. I'm just so unhappy. I cant sleep. I just dont know what to do. He says he's leaving but he never goes anywhere. But when he says that I just feel so relieved. It's like my heart is letting go of a burden. Thanks for listening. I appreciate that thanks so much.

From a lost friend in need of a shoulder and an ear. Thanks.

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